I’ve received quite a few emails and messages about these last few posts related to sex. It is a private pain that many women silently endure, this inability or unwillingness to connect with their husbands sexually for a variety of reasons.  It is a difficult subject to talk about due to the painful feelings it can bring up for many due to past experiences related to sexual abuse, molestation or even just promiscuity.  These are three areas that can greatly scar a woman in a marriage relationship; especially in the area of intimacy with her husband.  I have dealt with some of these aspects myself BUT with time, applying prayer and a commitment to overcoming, I do not let the Devil have a hold on me in this area of pain and shame anymore.  I’m not one of those women who will ever say, pray about it, believe these verses, and everything will be just fine.  It’s not that simple – period.  I do claim the power of the redeeming blood of Calvary over these aspects of my life, I do claim Christ’s victory for my life in this and many other areas, and I do pray and live my life according to many of the promises found in the Word, but it does take a disciplined life of casting down the attacks of the evil one over and over and over again, sometimes for months or years before there is finally a breakthrough and victory.  Paul doesn’t make it sound like an easy task but he does make it sound like a worthwhile task for he says,  “One thing I do, forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus,” Phil 3:14.  A few things I notice here – he has committed a conscious action, mindfully forgetting his past, not dwelling on the pain of his previous life, not wallowing in what and who he was but instead PRESSING toward the goal.  The word press is defined as “to act upon with steadily applied weight or force” doesn’t sound like strolling or skipping to me but a bit more intense, like we are in a battle for our lives, we are in the arena of life with opposition coming against us at every turn and we best get to pressing on, weighing in, and applying pressure in the spiritual realm through prayers and claiming the victories that ARE ours in Christ Jesus – sounds like hard work to me! Lest we all lose hope over a fear of how hard it sounds, let these words admonish and leave you with the hope that is promised to those who remain faithful; there is ALWAYS victory in He who is “able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us” Ephesians 3:20.  Friday I’ll share a personal story from a woman who reached out privately to share her painful journey and how she is attempting to rise above the pain of past experiences and return to a place of intimacy with her husband. 
Just keep livin!!

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